By Emmanuel Chukwu.
In today’s Nigeria as elsewhere in the free world ,actors and actresses are described as celebrities. This false nomenclature has made them to be seen as models by many youngtsers in today’s world.
Some of these actresses in Nigeria have been seen to dominate our social media space. Sometimes the conventional media also give them prominence. This culture started mainly in the United States of America and Europe and has fast spread across the globe
One glaring area of attention of some of these actresses and actors is sex and relationship. It is often seen and heard how their marriages crash easily. It is not out of place to say that their public visibility through television screens makes them a regular sight. And because of their seductive dressing and general outlook they easily attract attention. Wrongly, their seeming alluring picture sends sex appeals to the opposite sex .
Honestly, one needs the true knowledge of God to escape their seductive antics. This could be one reason why some of them crash out easily in their marital relationships, even though people meet breakups sometimes without being actresses or actors. People seem to say they experience relationship issues because of their home upbringings. The truth is that their costumes and screen dominant appearance make them prone to advances from the opposite sex..
The type of roles some of them are assigned paint wrong pictures contrary to their real lives. Their suggestive looks send wrong signals to viewers, especially those who cannot control themselves even when some view them as cheap . Every actress cannot be said to be cheap as there are among them some serious minded ones conscious of the implications of what they do.
However, it has become difficult for some people to see some of them as good models as a result of their obvious deviant behaviours and seductive appeals. Most of these actresses make social media headlines that are morally repugnant. What they say about sex and marriage cannot be said to be encouraging examples to the younger generation. Permit me to say that being an actress is not synonymous with immorality as there are still immoral girls who are not in the acting world.
Recently, two actresses made comments on social media which are considered morally dangerous and misleading. Even though under free speech and a free world nobody is expected to bear grudges against them for such positions.
In their respective interviews in a social media channel, Phoenix, they said things that could be morally misleading to younger people who know little about this life.
In her own interview, one Nollywood actress, Angela Eguavoen gave her reasons why women no longer need men for pleasure. According to her”Women don’t need men to pleasure themselves. There are gadgets that are faster and sweeter than men” According to that social media accounts, she laughed as she said this. She further said” Why should a broke man even date a lady?”
In another social media comment, another Nollywood actress, Esther Nwachukwu, said that “dating married men is the sweetest” She further said that they are sweetest when they are handsome, have money”.
Positions as immoral as these are supposed to be interrogated for their misleading intents for our young boys and girls with impressionable mindsets. These positions are from the pit of hell and should not be allowed to mislead our younger ones.
In the first place, Angela Eguavoen forgot to appreciate the salient fact that God created marriage to give companionship. Marriage is the only institution God created to allow sex between the opposite sex for procreation. The pleasure derived from sex between married couples is irreplaceable. Man cannot be substituted with any other object in the sexual relationship between man and woman. Anything contrary to this amounts to sexual deviation which is condemned by the Bible which contains God’s word for man’s moral and spiritual guidance.
It is true we are in a world of advances in science and technology, but some inventions are serving the devil’s purpose. Sex between a man and his wife is the sweetest. Even sex between unmarried people is not acceptable by God. It is described as fornication and adultery in the case of married people. Going contrary to what God has said would amount to disobeying God. This writer is not judging anyone, because I also disobeyed God in that respect until realising that sin holds man captive, except he accepts Jesus Christ of Nazareth, the son of God who was sacrificed for the remission of sins for those who believed in him.
As sweet as sex is, God approves of it for married couples. It is in marriage that the sweetness of it, is guaranteed and approved by God who beautifully created it to the glory of His name. Therefore, we will not come out openly to misdirect and miseducate the younger generation.
On the other hand, actress Stella Nwachukwu’s position on the sweetness of dating married men is also a morally deceptive one from the pit of hell. She went further by saying that dating married men is the sweetest when they are handsome, have money.
Of course, with this kind of mindset you need no prophet to tell you how she regards marriage. An unfortunate innocent man may be attracted to leave with women with such cheap and wicked mindsets only to crash the next day.
A married man is made for the woman that married him and he is excellently sweet to his own wife. Let no young person take the view that dating a married man is the sweetest, especially when he is handsome, have money. No this thinking is from the pit of hell.
Having acted once in my adult life and having written a brief play in my secondary school days, I know the power of appearing on the screen. It is tempting, but it depends on who you worship and whose laws you are obeying. Obeying God is the ultimate. Youths should be careful about who they regard as models.
Our younger ones should not accept the idea of Angela Eguavoen that women do not need men for pleasure because of the availability of sex gadgets. It is evil. Deviating from how God wants sex to be practised is going to hell. God created the woman to live with man as husband. It is beautiful.
Again, the position of the actress who said that dating married men is the sweetest is totally an idea from the pit of hell, girls should run away from that idea. We should be careful of how we copy some dirty White people’s ideas and dirty morally disturbing ideas of some wayward actresses and actors. There are also people who are not actresses or actors who have satanic ideas. We should pray to God to guide and guard us in this terrible time.
Though there are no angels among men, there are people who are consciously making efforts to do what is right, even though they falter sometimes as mortals. These people try as much as possible to live selflessly. They take what belongs to them, share what is generally owned equitably to make sure that everyone gets what is due to him or her. They even extend their personal belongings to others who are in need. They are not behaving this way to please the world, rather to please God. These people have sleepless nights feeling the pains of others who are not in any way related to them. These are the kind of human beings Africans will be looking for.
— Emma Chukwu.